Twenty-Five

  • Call your parents. Cry because you don’t call more.
  • Make new friends. Have a falling out with all of them.
  • Set a reminder in your phone to make a dentist appointment. Ignore it for three years.
  • Stalk your ex’s fiancé on social media. Jealously send screenshots to your best friend, who assures you that you’re prettier.
  • Gain weight in your midsection. Wonder if you will ever look the way you did at 16 again.
  • Figure out the difference between alone and lonely.
  • Cry over losing a childhood pet. Cry harder because you weren’t there when it happened.
  • Feel guilty for loving your new dog.
  • Get invited to a night club. Learn you’re actually more of a homebody.
  • Compare yourself to a photo of when you thought you were happy. Realize how lost you are.
  • Call your best friend. Use any excuse you can for the phone call. Finally admit you miss them.
  • Break a sentimental wine glass. Understand why your mom saved fancy things for special occasions.
  • Feel like you’ve wasted so much time. Make a list of things you want to accomplish. Watch it collect dust.
  • Pride yourself on being the shoulder to cry on.
  • Ask God for a favor. Try to remember the last time you prayed for anything selfless.
  • Realize how hard it is to make friends after high school. Question if there’s something wrong with you.
  • Make a bumble account. Deactivate it. Activate it. Deactivate it, again.
  • Go on a blind date.
  • Buy your first home. Fill it with a few pets and colorful decor.
  • Cry yourself to sleep.
  • Quit your job. Make a drastic career change. Hope that everyone who told you not to is wrong.
  • Smile at a baby at the grocery store and watch her give you a toothless grin in return. Pray that parenthood is in the cards for you.
  • Make a new group of friends. Only one becomes family.
  • Find a new love for flowers.
  • Start an expensive hobby. Get busy and forget about it.
  • Move back to your hometown and miss the new friends you made, the ones who finally made you feel like you belong.
  • Scroll through photos of your high school boyfriend’s new family. Hope that they’re really happy. Smile to yourself because you actually mean it.
  • Buy a new pair of jeans. Surprise yourself by how good it feels to not squeeze into a pair that doesn’t fit anymore.
  • Notice how much the face staring back at you in the mirror has changed. Try to figure out where the time has gone.
  • Overthink every time you hang out with the friend you always say too much to.
  • Find a way to laugh at yourself.
  • Hear that someone you thought was a friend doesn’t care for your loud, happy and energetic personality. Try to listen to everyone who reassures you that you’re a likable person.
  • Write down the first time you meant it when you called yourself beautiful. Return to it every time you catch yourself feeling unloved.
  • Fall in love with reading again.
  • Try to change a few insecurities. Question halfway through if you’re doing it for you, or them.
  • Drink a bottle and a half of wine. Make it a one time thing.
  • Reconnect with a few childhood friends. Swear you will be better about keeping in touch.
  • Donate a few shirts that you’ve been holding onto for too long. Find ones that fit your body and your personality better.
  • Sell your first home. Still picture your future family living in it.
  • Wake up one day and find yourself obsessed with how loving and intense you are. It suddenly feels impossible that someone ever made you feel ashamed of who you are.
  • Accept that life is full of ups and downs.
  • Spend thousands of dollars in veterinarian bills.
  • Contemplate how you ever lived your life without the people who are currently in it. Thank God for them daily. Ask if you can keep them forever.
  • Catch yourself telling others that it’s going to be okay. Because you’ve been there, and it was okay.

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